I did not know.
That is the part of this story that matters most. I did not know what week it would be for her when it arrived. I did not plan the timing. I just sent it when I thought of it, which was a random Wednesday in March, because I had been thinking about her and I had seen something that seemed right and I had learned by then to send things when the thought is present rather than waiting for an occasion.
My friend Lupe had been carrying something for months. A decision she could not make. A situation at work that had been grinding her down in ways she described only in fragments, and only when I asked, and only briefly before she changed the subject. I knew the shape of it without knowing the details.
On the random Wednesday I was in a bookshop and I found a small book. An old one, not famous, by a writer who specialized in essays about uncertainty and patience and the particular wisdom of not knowing what comes next. I had read it years ago during my own version of a difficult stretch and it had been the right thing at the right time for me.
I bought it without overthinking. I mailed it with a card that said: no reason. Just thinking about you.
She called me four days later.
She was crying a little when she picked up. She said: I have been having the worst week of the year. The absolute worst. And this arrived this morning and I sat down and read the first fifty pages and I felt like someone had written it for where I am right now.
I had no idea the week had been that bad. I had no idea the book would land at that exact moment. I had just sent something when I thought to send it.
This is the thing about gifts that are not tied to occasions. The occasion finds them. A birthday is scheduled. A hard week is not. When you send things in the open spaces, when you follow the instinct to send rather than waiting for permission, sometimes the timing is better than anything you could have planned.
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